Articles
The longer pieces
Most of what we write is short enough for a phone screen. This is where the rest goes: one subject at a time, taken slowly, published only when there is something specific to say.
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The quiet version
Signs You Are Drifting Apart
Drifting is not the absence of love and it is rarely dramatic. The signs are things that quietly went missing rather than things that appeared.
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Starting over socially
How to Make Friends in Your Thirties
You did not get worse at making friends. Adult life removed the thing that used to do it for you, and it can be rebuilt on purpose.
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When it is ignored
When Your Family Does Not Respect Your Boundaries
You said it clearly and they carried on anyway. At that point it stops being a communication problem, and what is left is the part nobody prepares for.
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Coming back from it
How to Apologise and Actually Repair Things
Sorry is a word about the past. Repair is a change the other person can see. Here is the difference, and why most apologies only ever do the first half.
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The people we did not choose
How to Set Boundaries With Your Parents as an Adult
Most boundaries fail because they are delivered as a request, and a request can be refused. Here is the difference, and how to say it so it holds.
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The fight that repeats
Why You and Your Partner Keep Having the Same Argument
The same fight keeps coming back because you keep solving the surface. Here is how to find the question underneath it, and what to say once you have.
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When the talking stops
Conversation Starters for Couples Who Have Run Out of Things to Say
Running out of things to say is not a shortage of topics. It is what happens when logistics replace the rest. Here is the kind of question that opens someone up.
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Coming back together
How to Reconnect With Your Spouse When You Have Drifted Apart
Drifting apart rarely comes from one big event. Here is how couples actually find their way back, starting with the one move most people get wrong.
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What to read next
Books Like Attached: What to Read Next
You finished Attached and you want more. Here is what to read next, sorted by the problem you are actually trying to solve rather than by popularity.
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Before the wedding
Questions to Ask Before Getting Married (And What the Answers Tell You)
The questions engaged couples forget to ask, why each one matters, and how to have the conversation without it turning into an argument.
Next step
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