Better We Connect
Book cover: “100 Questions Every Couple Should Ask” in serif type on beige, above a rose line drawing of a couple sitting together seen from behind, with the subtitle and the Better We Connect name on a rose band along the bottom.

Our own book

100 Questions Every Couple Should Ask

Conversation Starters for Deeper Connection in Marriage and Long-Term Relationships

A hundred questions, ordered so you can start anywhere. It isn't a quiz and there are no right answers printed at the back — it's a way into the conversations that get postponed for years, because there is never a natural moment to start them.

We wrote it for couples who are already doing fine and would like to be closer than fine, and for the ones who have gone quiet without ever meaning to. Some questions are light enough for a car journey. Others deserve an evening and no phones. Ten chapters take you from what a good Tuesday looks like to money, family, desire, old wounds, and what you both want the next ten years to hold.

Use it however suits you — one question at dinner, a chapter a week, or most of it over a weekend away. Skip anything that isn't yours. Getting through all hundred was never the point; noticing how much you'd assumed you already knew is.

Nothing in it asks you to perform. There are no scores, no compatibility percentage at the end, and no advice — only the questions, and whatever the two of you decide to do with them.

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What's inside

Ten chapters, a hundred questions

Ten questions in each, arranged so the easy ones come first and nothing lands before you're ready for it.

  1. 01 Everyday Connection
  2. 02 Communication
  3. 03 Conflict & Repair
  4. 04 Intimacy & Desire
  5. 05 Money
  6. 06 Family & In-Laws
  7. 07 Past & Healing
  8. 08 Dreams & Future
  9. 09 Friendship Inside Marriage
  10. 10 Meaning & Values

A taster

Three of the hundred

If these are the kind of thing you'd want to be asked, the rest will suit you.

What does a good day look like for you now — not the one you'd have described five years ago?

Everyday Connection

After an argument, what actually helps you come back — space first, or contact first?

Conflict & Repair

What did money feel like in the house you grew up in?

Money

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